These are two statements that have always rubbed me the wrong way. I have never been in or witnessed a situation where these were used in a good or even okay way. I'm not sure there is ever a good point in time where these SHOULD be used.
I got into a discussion with a family member about our opposing views one day, I am liberal and they are conservative. After they yelled at me for a bit for calming stating that a lot of the things they were telling me is "right" is because society made it so (for example, heterosexuality is normal and homosexuality is unnatural), they decided it would be good to tell me that they "still love me." I'm sorry but what makes my statement something you should stop loving me for?!? Side note: I have listened to this person rant about their views on religion, politics, and money for the past year while living with them and this was the first time I spoke up.
Another time, when this seems to be used a lot is when a family member or a close friend comes out of the closet. I have never been able to fathom how anyone could stop loving someone because they came out to you as homosexual. This person is still the exact same person they were before they told you if you loved them before there should be no question to whether you love them after as well.
Another example from my personal experience is when one family member who loves Trump argues with another family member that does not, even if the family member that does not basically said nothing, the family member that does will say something along the lines of "I love you anyway." I do not see how someone who was being civil and just does not like Trump deserves to question why you would not love them.
With all of the examples above I cannot see why one would have to think or question whether they still loved someone.
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